THE 4 ULTIMATE TYPES of 'Pa-hopefuls' THE "LADIES" VERSION.

For further understanding about what the word 'pa-hopeful' means, I would like to refer you to a friend's blog that has its clear meaning/definition of it. If you also want the 'Guys' version of ' Different Types of Pa-hopefuls' it's also there.:my thoughts for the day

First of all, my version, the 'Ladies' version,  is composed of  different scenarios that could have happen to you(girls) or to your friends..neighbors..classmates..batch mates..enemies..whatever. I just want to emphasize on the qualities a typical woman may or could have.

I would like to introduce to you Jenny and Jim as the primary characters of the scenarios below. If you happen to know a girl named 'Jenny' or a guy named 'Jim'. This is not them.haha

I should now begin!

Pa-hopeful Woman No. 1 --The 'Runway' pa-hopeful--

The runway pahopeful is a very much career oriented type of woman. She will do anything just to fly high. And even though she knows that deep inside she also wants to reach out to someone, she won't because she thinks she needs to focus more on her job and she believes that someone, when given an attention, will only clash and interfere into her career plans.

A runway model wears that super fit top and inches high heels and endures the difficulty to breathe. The pain in her legs are increasing every step she takes.
But the thing is, she loves what she's doing and even though she knows and feels the difficulties and pains, she chooses not to care about them.

Jenny is like that runway model, very dedicated to her career.

Jim on the other hand reaches out to jenny over and over again, I imagined him like a fan of that model, he watch her ramp, take pictures of her, carry her clothes and buy her meal.

Jenny knows that all, she knows deep in her heart that Jim's always been a part of her ramp, of her life and he is becoming even more noticeable every time, every bit of his presence she feels it but because she's too much into her career, she chooses not to think about jim at all. Every time that Jim comes into jenny's mind, she strongly convinces herself that, yes, jim could be a part of her life, but not the priority. She feels that she needs Jim but not as much as her career.

but how did she manage to let Jim stay at her side?

Like the pain and difficulties the runway model feels during her ramp, she also finds time to pamper herself, like she goes to a spa and then go shopping.

jenny knows her need for jim in her life so she also knows that she has to go out on dates and dinners with him so that somehow Jim will stay and will hold on to his belief and hope for jenny's approval..

Pa-hopeful Woman No. 2 --The Ms. Barbie doll pa-hopeful--

Jenny is a description of the OUTSIDE beauty. She's everyone's eyecandy. She turns the head of all the guys when she walks into that room and makes them blush when she smiles at them. Jenny is every guys dream girl.
Except for jim. Jim, is a quiet, simple, not that very handsome guy in the corner of that room, but most of the girls are attracted to him because of his manly-tough bad boy type of look. jim doesn't stun jenny that much, but she's really attracted to jim's mysterious type of personality, she has this feeling..she wants to see jim admire her like most of the guys do but jim is different from them. jenny, is somehow frustrated with jim and she wants him to feel that frustration too. Jenny always gets what she wants, and since she has many friends/fans beside her, she uses them so she'd get to know more about Jim.

When Jenny and Jim became friends, Jenny felt the mission of solving the mystery has just started, Jenny finds out that jim likes simple girls and so Jenny made herself simple, shirt and jeans, no make-up. jenny still stuns the guys every where she goes and Jim is liking the feeling that he's with the prettiest girl in town. Jenny changed her attitude atleast for Jim. and it did turned him on. Jim was known as a guy who doesn't fall for a girl that easy, and girls who envy Jenny for her beauty and appeal, envy her more for having Jim at her side. Jenny now likes the feeling of Jim beside her. Jim eventually fell for her and Jenny loves the thought. Jenny's plan does not include having him as her boyfriend because she doesn't really like that idea, she only wants all the attention. Jim continues to go crazy about her and jenny remains the same. she's too proud of herself that she's got Jim chasing over her.

Pa-hopeful Woman No. 3 --The out of sight out of mind pa-hopeful--

The out of sight out of mind pahopeful is a complicated type of pahopeful. why?

here's the story:

Jenny is a hardworking and friendly woman. Jim is her officemate and they really get along very well. Jim likes jenny a lot and he feels that jenny likes him too. And yes, Jenny do like Jim, but the problem is Jenny is into a relationship state! Does Jim knows? yes. but Jim's hope is so much about Jenny.
why? Because jenny spends a lot of time with jim than her real boyfriend.

this is like a love triangle, Jenny's boyfriend is a very busy, workaholic man, let's name him johnny. johnny is a businessman who travels a lot because it is necessary for his job. jenny loves johnny but she doesn't see him as often as she sees jim, and not only that, because they're in the same office, they spend more time together, more talking and laughing.

Jenny misses johnny so much and jim is her only solution. Whenever she goes out with Jim, she felt that her loneliness was resolved. she felt that she's cool without johnny because here's jim. Jenny likes jim, he's a friend. But she doesn't like jim to take the place of johnny because she LOVES johnny. she just needs to have someone to be with when johnny is not around. someone to make her forget her longingness for johnny. someone that will make her happy aside from johnny. What jenny does is she also makes jim feels that she likes him so that jim won't leave and will continue to be with her when she needs him. the bad thing about jenny is that she tells jim that johnny is too lax with their relationship, she makes jim believe that she feels bad about johnny and it might make her leave him and because jim trusts her, he believes and hopes he'd take place with johnny in jenny's life but deep inside jenny, she can't afford to leave someone like johnny whom she loves so much. she only wants sympathy from jim and she wants jim to stick with her because he fills her emptiness.

Pa-hopeful Woman No. 4 --The ShHopper pa-hopeful--

This pa-hopeful is a headache. Like a shopaholic, she hop from one botique to another but there's a little difference about the shHopper and shopaholic. The shopaholic loves to buy anything she wants and she's really buying it. ShHopper is someone who PRETEND to shop but what she usually does is wow i like this dress..i love this necklace..i want this coat..I will come back later for this. She finds the store exit and HOP to another store and same script.! Shoper-Hopper. She assures that she's coming back later or tomorrow or another day and is going to buy the stuff she wants badly but she really have no plans buying it, she only wants to prevent people from getting irritated at her style so she assures them but never keep her words.

Here's the story:

Jenny likes Jim, jim noticed it and he responded. When johnny passed by, Jenny smiled at Johnny and Johnny noticed it and he responded. Jenny actually likes them both. It's just that, Jenny want to see if there's still somebody she's gonna like more than the two guys in front of her.

Jenny assures every man she likes and gives them hints that she likes'em. But truth is, she only collects guys she likes. She likes the idea of being surrounded with guys she wants to be with..she wants them to know she's available but is not really taking each of them seriously...

1st is tolerance, then u'll get used to it, and accept it..and embrace it and then life goes on.

sometimes..there are things  we simply cannot tolerate..some things we hardly understand..that when we take immediate action, everything will just burst and things get scattered and mess will be all around. It's like u wanted to get mad, u r badly hurt and u just cant do anything but think about y things have to happen that way? U cant do anything so badly..u just have to allow circumstances to hurt u and there's no other escape from it.

It sucks..really. But allowing calmness to dwell within is what I fortunately learned. Sometimes I thought I cannot handle any situation beyond my control, yes, I really couldn't handle it ALONE. I still want to maintain my sanity. With the help of prayers and good people, I am still fine and happy despite every freakin' stuffs.

Not only calmness is the key for that sucking big thing in your life, you also have to ask and know yourself more, what is it with you that could make you carry this crucial circumstance? what do you really really want and in what way can you deal this? Often times, it's ourselves that we needed to understand the most. And next in line are the people and the situation itself.

Breathe in..breathe out..think about how good it felt like when someone surpassed crazy obstacles in the road after a long run. It would be like heaven, I made it!

Ang kwento ng pagmamahal.

Isa sa mga pangyayari sa buhay ko na sa tingin ko ay diko kakayanin ay ang mwala c lola. Halos araw araw laman sya lagi ng isip ko,di ako makatulog,hirap kumain,bumyahe at maglakad sa daan ng diko sya naiisip,kahit anong waksi ko mayamaya nasa isip ko n nman sya. Si lola, na kinalakihan ko at nagbgay sa akin ng sobrang pagmamahal at atensyon hanggang sa edad ko na nato. Lahat ng pangako saken nung bata ako e tinupad nya,walang palya un, at mula sa shampoo,sabon,pulbo,cologne,lotion, laruan at damit ay sya ang number 1 sponsor ko. Mahal na mahal ako ni lola at lagi nyang sinasabi sa akin un, at sya din ang unang taong nagmulat sa akin n mahal ako ng Diyos at mahal ng Diyos ang lahat ng tao mabuti man o masama. Sa edad n tatlo ay natuto na din ako magrosary dahil s kanya. Sa gabi, puro kwento ng kabataan nya, sa araw puro kwento ng kabataan ko. Napagagalitan din ako oo naman, pero mas maraming beses ako napagsabihan kesa sa napagalitan. May panahon na nahilig ako sa pagaalaga ng pusa,cguro nsa elementary pa ko nun. Lahat ng tao nainis sa akin nun dahil marumi daw ang pusa kahit paliguan ko pa, pero si lola tuwang tuwa dahil ang bait daw ng pusa ko at inaalagaan ko daw tlga mabuti dahil tuwing nsa eskwela ako hinahanap hanap ako nun.pag kauwi ay sinasalubong pa. Madami akong ala-ala kay lola lalo na nung nagcollege at nagttrabaho nako,maraming beses nya ng nataboy ang mga lungkot na hndi ko alam kung san nanggagaling,hahawakan lng nya kamay ko tapos sasabihin nya "do not worry about anything, God loves you anyway, just pray always". Nakakamiss talaga. Nasabi ko din kay lola na marunong na ko tumugtog ng gitara pero hindi ako magaling marunong lang,tapos tuwang tuwa sya dahil magagamit ko daw un pagnagworship ako. Lahat ng mahahalagang bagay at pangyayari sa buhay ko ay alam ni lola,minsan natatawa sya sa akin at minsan naman nagugulat,pero sobrang srap sa pakiramdam na may nsasabihan ako ng sekreto at komportable p ko dahil lola ko at sobrang mahal ako.

Hindi lahat ng gusto ni lola ay nagawa ko, madami din akong palpak. Pero wala kong naramdaman na tampo o inis galing sa kanya. "Its okay" lng ang naririnig ko sa kanya. "Its okay, there are many next time"...

Ngaun, tuwing naiisip ko ang madaming next time na linya na yun..nkakalungkot. Pero pagnaiisip ko na ayaw ni lola ng nagaalala at nalulungkot ay natitigilan ako.

0o,malungkot na sa malungkot ako..pero ang dami kong napagtanto sa pagkawala ni lola, madami din akong natuklasan sa sarili ko, at madami akong gustong gawin ngayon mas dumami kesa dati : )

Hinding hindi ko makakalimutan ang pagmamahal at pagsisilbi ni lola. Lahat ng malulungkot na pangyayari bago sya mawala ay napalitan lahat ng ala ala nya. Ang sakit ng pagkawala nya pero alam kong masaya sya ngaun at ipagdadasal ko sya palagi. Masaya na rin ako kahit papano dahil nagpapahinga n sya ngaun at magaan na ang pakiramdam nya. Sabi nga nya..mahaba haba pa lalakarin at madami dami pa kakainin ko. Hwag lng akong makalimot magdasal kahit anong mangyari.


La...madaming madaming salamat sa lahat. Ayos lang ako dito..tatandaan ko lahat ng sinabi m0.. Kaya ko to ;)

The hardest word for me to say is goodbye.

I really don't know how long will I be hurt like this....because lola just left me..the only person who doesn't even bother to look at my flaws and mistakes as a person, the only person who appreciates everything about me..understands me even when sometimes people find it hard to. The only person who doesn't waste my everyday 'i love youS '.. the person who treated me unique and incomparable.

I feel that something is lacking in me now, something is missing, like a part of me was taken away and I lost it..like forever..What I am feeling right now.. I just don't want and care about anything anymore, I just want her back that's all(but everything about me and my lola is over and done :,( and that makes me feel very lost )..I feel like no matter what I do, it's too late and it's just..not..the way it should. I feel like everything I do is useless and isn't right.

I miss her love so much.. I know that she isn't mine at all.. in the hands of the Father, she is..'back' in His hands now..and I'm losing her.forever........losing her forever..how would i start a new step without her now.

May mas sasama p ba?

Maganda ang panahon..masaya si haring araw pero may mantsa ng pagkamadilim ang mga ulap. Pumasok sa aking isip na mukhang may posibilidad bumuhos ang kaunting ulan..kaunti lng nman. Cge magddala ako ng payong. Sumakay ng pampasaherong dyip. Dalawampung minuto ang dumaan hndi pa ko nakakababa ay bglang bumuhos ang nangangalit na ulan akala mo taong nagtimpi at napuno at bglang sumabog nlng ang galit nito.

Sobrang lakas na nabasa ako kahit may payong ako, hndi lng pla sya galit..nangaasar pa dahil may ksama pang malakas na hangin. mabuti n lng at anjan na ang bus..tamang tama hndi puno at nakaupo ako..pwede na solb ang umpisa ng araw.

pagkaupo ko..may naaamoy akong kakaiba. amoy ipis ba ito..ah-hndi..ung kurtina cguro ilang taon nang hndi pinapalitan...taas ko muna pra hndi ko maamoy. ok na..mukhang ang kurtina nga..lumipas ang tatlong minuto..meron prin? ano kia tong nangangamoy? ung katabi ko nagttka na dahil akala nya cguro me sarili akong mundo at hndi pa mapakali sa kinauupuan. maya maya gumalaw ang bus..napalapit ang mukha ko sa salamin ng bintana ng bus. hndi lng mukha nakita ko pa to dahil nahagip ng mata ko! laman-laman ito ng napisang ipis dahil pinalo ng kung hndi dyaryo e tsinelas! o kung ano man ang ginamit pampatay dito wla na kong pakialam basta mabaho at lalo akong hndi mapalagay konti nlng at magccolapse na ang baga ko! 

30mins dn ang nagdaan! natiis ko un! maya-maya--blooooouuugggsh.(sound effect) nabangga ang bus! nagkabanggaan ang bus at dyip n magkatabing bumabyahe. ilang minuto pa nagsibabaan n ang mga tao..anak ng tilapya :D iiyak na ba ko..umpisa plng ng araw to..hello? good vibes nsan ka pwede ba wag m nman akong dedmahin? sumuko dn ako..bumaba ksama ng mga pasahero. pagkababa ko umpisa na ng pagalingan sa paghhanap ng masskyan at pabilisan ang mga tao. ang talo..LATE sa trabaho!

Nung una aun mern akong nakita..pagtingin ko sa tabi ko isang lola ang kakompetensya ko-ayoko cge lola una kna sa dyip kahit mukhang hndi k nman sa opis mukhang pauwi kna..huwaaa..ok sumakay c lola. lumipat ako ng pwesto..sa unahan pra mas wlang nagmmdaling tao..aun meron! ang bilis meron dn kagad umagaw! c lolo naman..aray ko ang sakit n ng ulo ko dahil sa pagaalala sa oras..lalong bumibilis at lalo kong nagiging late! sumuko na ko sa dyip at siniksik sarili ko sa isa pang bus. mainit..nakatayo...ang sikiiiiiip...bumaba ako..isang oras na LATE..badtrip..

Maiksi plng to at may kadugtong pa pauwi pero dko na ikkwento baka matawa nlng kayo sa araw ko.alam kong meron pang mas 'nakakainis at nakakaasar' na simula ng araw kumpara dito..

hay naku... mabuti nlng at meron akong kwentong ganito..dahil kung wala..kahit papaano hndi ko msasabing ang buhay ay sadyang makulay..hndi lahat swak..hndi lahat sakto..hndi lahat masaya..hndi lahat madali..at higit sa lahat...lahat ng mga pangyyri kahit gaano ka masalimuot at mabigat ay nakakayang dalhin ng isang tao..lahat ng mga pangyyri ay lumilipas at nakakalimutan..napapalitan ng bagong pangyyari at magppatatag sayo sa mga susunod na mga darating pang araw.. wlang nagsasabing masama mainis o maasar sa ganitong mga pagkakataon..ang masama ay kapag nadamay mo sa inis mo ang mga tao sa paligid mo na wla nmang kaalam-alam sa totoong nangyyri sayo..kia tuwing may ganito akong mrranasan ult..iicpin ko nlng bukas iba nman..ganun tlga :)

Lifetime Commitment vs. Divorce.

If marriage already leads u to being put to danger because u think u  have married the wrong person..a criminal for example..or an assaulter..-that's the time when u have to think of saving ur life and Loving ur self more.!

VERSUS.

People, it's our need to legalize divorce because a lifetime marriage to someone that u cannot ANYMORE love after years of being together is a disaster.---whaaaaat???

I heard it being said..gave me an ear ache. how come..

i don't intend to really oppose anyone's opinion about the issue. what makes me sad about the statement above is that..people should have more understanding about marriage. it is not a test of love but a lifetime commitment and a decision.. In many years of marriage, a couple definitely will experience togetherness without magic or spark anymore because u have been together for so long and have known each other like a brother and a sister. Marriage is serving one another and not just getting ur desires fed..

A Battlefield..better get ur armor!get ur armor!(echo)

Love is sometimes like a battlefield the difference is that u both learn after u get to fight over something..and to fight with someone u love is always not a waste.
Love needs team work and no one is before the other..taking care of each other is a simple task if both is sincere.

and I like this quote: :D
Relationship stages: Strangers » Friends » Best Friends » Relationship » Heartbreak » Friends » Strangers.---it's not always true but it made me laugh big time..

I thought I'm buried deep..

I was just taught to let go of my attachments whoever/whatever it is..sometimes random things kill me..but thank God for assuring me of what really is important and who to put first in my priority..and that is Him. I can only achieve the most important task by placing Him first in my heart and mind. Whatever happened in the past..I could not do anything to change it but my future I still hold it.. Thank God for letting me find out that His love is more than anything in this world.. I may lose everything here..it would hurt me a lot i know..but if I will have His love for a lifetime..what a joy!

felt like something..

I prayed last night before i went to sleep that the Lord will give me peace of mind and heart, i was really worried, worried about many diff.things, felt guilty and more negative....
guess what..I woke up today with a song in my mind..it keeps playing..a song that's titled Till you see that your home is in heaven...i haven't experience yet a Last "Worship" Song Syndrome first in the morning. Really this is weird :D

today i had a wonderful wake up call. thank you Lord.

Most of the time I try to fill my thoughts with easy things. I realized I must be worried about myself going to hell If I don't look up to the Lord first before anything else. Now I decided to dettach myself from things that won't last. I can say that this is really a challenge, a challenge that is worth a million try..if I lose something here, it might be very painful..very very very..painful..I pray that the Lord will keep my sanity because I can't stand alone, i can't stand alone without Him with me.

Life...no..LIVES vs. One Crime..

My heart cried late morning today, when there's no communication, that must've happen between the Department of Foreign Affairs and Chinese Embassy re: the scheduled execution of the three Filipinos in China.

early afternoon..it was already announced and broadcasted....their death.. That hurts because A life has to be taken away because of one crime. Lives have been ruined because of the drugs they were able to carry from a place to another, but the executed people..its not only their lives but the lives of the people who have hopes and who draw strength from them, this is another sad part of this world's history. :(

Happiness is a Decision

We sometimes think that happiness depends on each of our situation or circumstance in life. Big EX! U could only find Happiness if u decide to be happy despite the mess that u get to see everyday. Despite that annoying person that bugs u anytime of the day. Despite your family problems, financial, relationships, academic, job etc. Everything happens to anyone, anywhere. And often..to u. It's your disposition and not your situation. Don't blame the trash, stay calm and organize yourself. Mistakes happen. too numerous to count(guilty tone of voice). I am guilty of it. and I struggle everyday. :D But I realize, I could always find happiness within me, I would always try to look at the brighter side even if it's really hard in times of hardship and trials. Happiness is always an option :) Don't blame anyone or anything. Blame yourself if u don't get so happy with a lot of things most of the time. U misunderstood happiness.

cant think of a title :p

It passes by..doesnt really fade but it is already manageable.

-vague thought today :D

Because of A.I 10 ('audition of the accountant guy')-i find this song really kewl and addicting :D

Please pause the background music in the right nav.of my page first before u hit "play"below.

The Man Who Can't Be Moved lyrics
Songwriters: Frampton, Andrew Marcus; Kipner, Stephen Alan; O Donoghue, Daniel John; Sheehan, Mark Anthony;

Going back to the corner where I first saw you
Gonna camp in my sleeping bag, I'm not gonna move
Got some words on cardboard, got your picture in my hand
Saying if you see this girl can you tell her where I am

Some try to hand me money, they don't understand
I'm not broke I'm just a broken hearted man
I know it makes no sense, but what else can I do
How can I move on when I've been in love with you

'Cause if one day you wake up and find that you're missing me
And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I could be
Thinking maybe you'll come back here to the place that we'd meet
And you'd see me waiting for you on the corner of the street

So I'm not moving
I'm not moving

Policeman says son you can't stay here
I said there's someone I'm waiting for if it's a day, a month, a year
Gotta stand my ground even if it rains or snows
If she changes her mind this is the first place she will go

'Cause if one day you wake up and find that you're missing me
And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I could be
Thinking maybe you'll come back here to the place that we'd meet
And you see me waiting for you on the corner of the street

So I'm not moving
I'm not moving
I'm not moving
I'm not moving

People talk about the guy
Who's waiting on a girl, oh whoa
There are no holes in his shoes
But a big hole in his world

Maybe I'll get famous as the man who can't be moved
And maybe you won't mean to but you'll see me on the news
And you'll come running to the corner
'Cause you'll know it's just for you

I'm the man who can't be moved
I'm the man who can't be moved

'Cause if one day you wake up and find that you're missing me
And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I could be
Thinking maybe you'll come back here to the place that we meet
Oh, you see me waiting for you on a corner of the street

So I'm not moving
('Cause if one day you wake up, find that you're missing me)
I'm not moving
(And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I could be)
I'm not moving
(Thinking maybe you'll come back here to the place that we'd meet)
I'm not moving
(Oh, you see me waiting for you on a corner of the street)

Going back to the corner where I first saw you
Gonna camp in my sleeping bag, I'm not gonna move..

a nice quote from bo sanchez :)

When someone doesn’t like to be your friend, just walk off and go on your merry way. Life is too beautiful to be sad at one person’s rejection.....